If you do not forgive, you are demanding something your offender does not choose to give, even if it is only confession of what he did. This "ties" him to you and ruins boundaries. Let the dysfunctional family you came from go. Cut it loose, and you will be free. Henry Cloud
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Letting go of the dysfunction in your family is the only way to be free. This quote implies that forgiving someone will make you dependent on them so you are unable to move forward with your life unless they are in your life. There are many dysfunctional families out there. There are families where violence, abuse, and neglect are all too common.

A lot of people who grew up in these types of families end up making their own dysfunctional families which work the same way. It is impossible to expect forgiveness from people who have let you down and hurt you in some way no matter how much you ask for it.

Source: Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How To Say No To Take Control Of Your Life

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